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You Just Discovered Sexual Betrayal. How to Begin Healing Using Gottman's Atone, Attune, Attach Model for Relationship Recovery.
If you have just discovered infidelity in your relationship, your world may feel like it is falling apart, or worse yet, destroyed. The emotional rollercoaster—shock, anger, grief, confusion, numbness—is overwhelming. Intrusive thoughts, disabling amounts of anxiety, and unending questions swirl endlessly in your head.
Heidi A Sauder, PHD
May 264 min read


Gottman Couples Therapy: What is a Softened Start-Up and Why Does it Matter?
Many people find it tiresome to hear someone complain and most people struggle to want to listen to someone complain about them. Bringing up a complaint in a respectful and gentle way, without criticism, gives the listener a fighting chance of being curious about what makes you upset and understanding what you want.
Heidi A Sauder, PHD
May 122 min read


Gottman Couples Therapy: What is the State of the Union Meeting and Why is it Important?
When couples come in for therapy, one of the most important tools I like to equip them with is the Gottman State of the Union meeting....
Heidi A Sauder, PHD
Mar 20, 20242 min read
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