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Discernment Counseling

Chances are either you or your spouse feels too little hope or energy to start traditional couples counseling. You may have tried that road before.

Discernment counseling is specially designed for couples where one spouse is leaning towards divorce and the other wants to preserve the marriage. Couples like this don't do well in traditional marriage counseling that aims at solving marital problems. They need a different approach.

The focus of discernment counseling is not on solving marital problems but on seeing if they could potentially be solved. Sessions involve separate conversations with each spouse, as well as time as a couple.

Discernment Counseling is short term, just 1-5 sessions, and usually leads to a decision to either break up/divorce or give the relationship a major last effort, with a clear agenda for change.

If you or your partner/spouse are considering breaking up/divorce, but are not sure, consider doing Discernment Counseling.

  • Gain clarity and confidence about what steps to take next with your relationship

  • Look at three sides of your problems: yours, your partner's, and an objective professional's perspective

  • Evaluate the possibility of solving your problems and staying committed together

  • Decide whether to move towards divorce/breaking up or make a last all-out effort to restore your relationship to health

  • Understand what has happened to your relationship

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